Mustache Give-Away

Here comes my first Mustache give-away :D

The lucky one is a little girl named Rara.

A diary book with some words for her.

What is Namaste?

Loosely translated, “namaste” means “the spirit in me recognizes spirit in you.” It is, beyond its use as a greeting, an acknowledgement of oneness. It says, “I see you for all you are beneath the flesh, and I welcome your presence.” It isn’t necessary to start greeting all of our peers with “namaste,” but maybe we could all use a little more of this  attitude in our lives.


The picture is taken from here. 

Books and Me on Monday Morning

I hate buying books with the covers of movie adaptations. I want the genuine one!


The idea of e-readers makes me wonder don't you love the smell of papers in both new/old books?


and I like the sad-happy feeling when I finish another good book :)


Some introverts may say, "I like books better than people", "I like writing better than talking"
Ah! I wish you know it that well, people.

Just Because..

Hi dear,

You may always see me laugh a lot, but it does not mean my life is easy..
You may always see me have a smile on my face everyday and cheer up people, but it does not mean that something is not bothering me..

Sometimes, I just choose to move on and not dwelling on all the negatives in my life..

So, please get along with me, boy..

Still, Thankful

I am thankful for the difficult person in my life.
They have shown me exactly who I don't want to be with.

Emotion Vocabulary for Writers

What I feel right now:

crushed, defeated, exhausted, unloved, unwanted, wounded, burdened, deserted, empty, grievous, hurt, hopeless, betrayed, abused, furious, pissed off, overwhelmed, vulnerable, stagnant, trapped, disgusted, deceived, agitated, insecure, skeptical, suspicious, threatened, uneasy, awkward, doubt, foggy, hesitant, puzzled, troubled, lost, displeased, anxious, reluctant, uncertain, unsettled, unsure, uncomfortable, bothered.

Source, click here.

I Need Your "LIKE" on Facebook

Dear All especially Book Lovers around the globe,


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It's publicly open so everyone can help me to give some LIKEs as long as you have Facebook account.

Your help and support will be greatly appreciated to help me win this contest and the prize worth Rp 1 Million can make me buying any book I like!

So, please..

Only good books keep me sane :)

Thanks heaps!

Serial Killer Introverts: Myth or Fact?

In the last tens of years the media influence has grown exponentially with the advance of technology. Internet hits them all. We live in a society that depends on information and communication to keep moving in the right direction and do our daily activities like work, entertainment, education, personal relationship, traveling, ah you mention.


What we need to be aware is that most of our decisions, beliefs, and values are based on what we know for a fact, our assumptions and our own experience. In our work we usually know what we have to do based on our experience and studies, however on our daily lives we rely on the media to get the current news and facts about what is important and what we should be aware of. 


Thus, the influence of mass media on our society is so big that we should know how it really works. It is very important to be aware of what our society are exposed to every day and we should try to look at things from different perspectives and not just from the one the media gives you. 


The media also shapes stereotypes in real life and it is related to the main topic of introversion that I want to discuss with all of you. In real life, the serial killers or those who go on shooting rampages are nearly always described as being "really quiet" because we already got the knowledge from the media (movie, etc) that typical of psychopaths are like that. 


Introversion does not equal psychosis or a propensity to violence. This really should not need to be said, of course.


For example, The Daily Mail reported a tragically familiar story. A 23 year old named Joseph McAndrew stabbed his parents and twin brother to death in the kitchen of their family home. Here were the very first words of the article: "A... 'Loner and Introvert' allegedly stabbed to death his twin brother, mother, and father..."


The media often brings us tales of "shy", "quiet", "introverted" killers. The article reports that he spent most of his time alone in his room. But McAndrew was not just introverted, he was deranged. He had been struggling with mental illness, possibly schizophrenia for many years. And herein lies the problem. People who suffer from psychoses often withdraw from the world. Technically, they are "introverted" in the sense of having turned inward. 


But they are not introverts in the sense that most people use that word, to connote a person who has a rich inner life and prefers low-stimulation environments (the company of a close friend to a big group, a quiet game of tennis compared to bungee jumping). In fact, studies show that introverted young people are less prone to violence and delinquency than extroverts are! They also smoke less and use fewer drugs.

Another point of view that might help you to re-think to say that Introverts are psychopath is, people who suffer from mania tend to be sociable, talkative, and energetic. So do narcissist. But that doesn't mean that extroversion = mania or narcissism.

So the answer is.. it is a myth.

A Little..

I got the picture by re-blogging a post from Mochacafe in Tumblr.

It seems the owner is Jeansbeans<3Tumblr, but I don't know the link.

Credit to the owner.

Thanks!

The Myths About Introverts

As people may think, myth is defined as a sacred narrative explaining how the world and humankind came to be in their present form. Many definitions about the word myth appeared in so many books and many scholars in other fields use the term myth in somewhat different ways. In a very broad sense, the word can refer to any story originating within traditions, or characteristics (or maybe stereotypes).

I have shared in my previous writings about Introversion and still myths can be so attached with this characteristic.

I will make another writing about why people connote introverts with serial killer, psychopath, and so forth in the next writing.

For now, I would like to share about the top myths of Introverts that I borrow from Exciting Red Bone Lightning and I also put some explanations toward the myths:

Introverts don't like to talk 
This is not true. Introverts just don't talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won't shut up for days. Sometimes, I start to get suspicious if people are too complimentary.
Introverts are shy
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don't interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an introvert, just start talking. Don't worry about being polite.
Introverts are rude
Introverts often don't see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Introverts don't like people
Seriously people, on the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you are in.
Introverts don't like to go out in public
Nonsense. Introverts just don't like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don't need to be there for long to "get it". They are ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts. I was told by my Mom and Dad to "go outside and play with my friends", they just worried about me because I liked to be by myself.
Introverts always want to be alone
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don't have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at time.
Introverts are weird
Introverts are often individualists. They don't follow the crowd. They don't follow the mainstream. They would prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don't make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Introverts are aloof nerds
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It's not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it's just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Introverts don't know how to relax and have fun
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies (Oh, yes it is). If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down (I will get my migraine once I was in this level). Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts
Introverts cannot "fix themselves" and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.


*exhale*

I believe it's going to be useful for extroverts to know more about your friends Introverts, and also useful for Introverts to know more about themselves.

Cheers :)

Short

Life is short.
Smile while you still have teeth.

PS: My Grandma always smiles even she doesn't have tooth anymore! :D

It's Done

The past. It's done.

It's unchangeable.

Move on.

Once you survived a broken heart, you will learn that strong heart is about to forgive, not to forget.

I never knew that my heart could be this strong.

I am glad.

:)

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Credit for the owner. Thanks.